Hi, I’m Tori Benitez With Onyx Arrow Consulting. I am a certified consultant and Family Court Strategist with over a decade of experience. I want to help you navigate your abuser who is likely weaponizing the Family Court system against you. I provide coaching, strategic guidance, assistance in documenting your case, negotiation tools, empowerment and validation.
Whether you are looking to escape your abusive relationship, or already entered Family Court and experiencing post separation abuse, I know just how complex everyone’s situations are and quickly things can change. As a victim of domestic violence and forced into Family Court with my abuser, I lacked support, guidance, and understanding.. After I became certified in high conflict divorce and custody, combined with multiple degrees in the legal field I realized many need assistance that is not yet provided to them. I truly believe it is not a law degree or psychology degree that makes you qualified to understand the abuse- the experts are the victims.
Let’s join together in every step of your journey.
How can I help?
Detailed Strategy
The reality is, you cannot work with emotions and think this will be a simple solution- regardless as to which step in the process you are in. You need strategy. I offer one on one phone sessions for all clients within the US.
Empower yourself
Empower yourself with education, tools, and plans. Find ways to not be manipulated by your ex, court professionals, and the system.
Guidance
Whether you are escaping, navigating family court, navigating strategically communicating with your co-parent or healing, none of this is linear. You will need guidance along the way.
Mitigate the chaos
Your abuser thrives off of chaos and confusion.Think about your long-term goals. Whether it’s finding a way to exit the relationship safely or finding ways to protect yourself within it, having a plan can reduce feelings of chaos.
Fueling your fire
Your abuser was great at diminishing your flame and taking your identity away. Connecting with a Strategist can help fuel your fire against your abuser who weaponizes the Family Court system against you.
Create a Roadmap
Oftentimes I see court professionals giving little to no education to their clients, leaving their clients unprepared and lost. I teach clients how to be organized with their case whether they are self-represented or have an attorney.
What people are saying
“I'm SO grateful I was referred to Tori early on in my custody battle. Her weekly calls provided the strategy and organization I needed to manage my complex case across two states and kept me from getting sucked into my ex's chaos. I went from feeling so lost and constantly on the defense to empowered and on the offense. My attorney was so impressed with the binder Tori helped me create, and her paralegal expertise saved me money and improved our case. Relying solely on my very busy attorney, who is excellent, would have been a HUGE mistake. Tori was the missing piece and empowered me to take control, leading to a favorable evaluation and recommendation. I continue to use Tori for ongoing support even though my case has closed (for now) and HIGHLY recommend her services wherever you're at in your journey” -Anonymous
“I have a therapist and a lawyer, but Tori is something special. The mutual experience is invaluable.”
— Anonymous
“Having Tori in my corner is like having someone arm you for battle with all the right “weapons” to fight for you and your kids.”
— Anonymous
“This feels a little early to be posting a testimonial, but I had a single intro session with Tori, and within 4 hours of the appointment I had figured out things that changed the entire course of a deposition... which my attorney and I had been researching in preparation for since December 2022.
— Anonymous
“Tori is literally saving my life. Without her guidance I would not have been as confident or strong in navigating police, court, lawyers, you name it.”
— Anonymous
“Tori has such an intense personal experience and is truly invested in my case. I don’t know what I would do without her, you don’t know it yet, but you need her too! I wish I could shout this from the rooftops!”
— Anonymous
“I’ve met with Tori about 4 times now, 3 one on one and 1 group session, I have been following her for awhile. I am so thankful for this group of people and for Tori’s help during a hard time in me and my kids life. Having the connections and relationships with everyone I’ve met in this process has been one of the best experiences, I’ve been able to vent about my frustrations… But I’ve also been able to understand better how to navigate the system and how to format a court document on my own!”
— Anonymous
