Hi, I’m Tori

During a toxic relationship and engagement, I thought I was the problem so I attempted several tools for the sake of the relationship. I found a therapist for us (as well as myself), relationship counseling, and I attended a women’s group for relationships. I was lost and did not feel like myself. He would not let me work because he would not care for the children, I was unable to attend a women’s only gym because he considered it “going out with friends”, would not share his income for our family so him paying for daycare for me to work was not an option, and I was forced to listen to negative comments about me and my children from his family. In 2018, while my last living parent was on hospice, I finally chose my own family over him and his. I left to care for my dying father.

The threats started. He threatened to destroy my property while I was my father’s hospice nurse, changed the alarm code on the house so it made it difficult to collect my own belongings, if I was allowed in the home he would stand in doorways and beg me back, and he hacked into my icloud to message every guy friend calling me names and convincing them to not talk to me on any level.

It was enough for me to file a TRO which I was later coerced to drop because I did not have the funds like he did.

After my father passed away from his cancer, I became homeless with no assistance and with no idea on how to navigate my new reality. I was unsure on how to be alone while also providing housing for my children, and struggling so hard I leaned on the wrong person for help. In 2019 I became pregnant again, but had no idea my partner was a functioning addict. After announcing to him I was pregnant and would not be having an abortion (per his request), he became verbally, emotionally, and financially abusive. His addiction ramped up as well.

I gained every ounce of courage and filed a restraining order weeks before the pandemic. I gave birth to our child, alone, in the pandemic.

2020 I finally chose myself. Even though I became a single mother of multiples, with little to no family help, and little to no child support, I invested in returning to school for my children’s future. Within 2 years I have obtained 2 legal degrees and multiple certifications within the family law realm.  My goal now is to help others navigate the same roads I once walked.

I have been where you are and I believe you can get out.

If you have decided to leave a toxic relationship, let me help guide you, safely, out of the fog and into a brighter life.