How to strategize your escape
Most victims are extremely empathetic and believe they need to continue to give their abusive partners opportunities to improve themselves, but you need to invest more in yourself than them!
When dealing with abuse, strategizing an escape plan is crucial for ensuring personal safety and well-being. By carefully considering the circumstances and potential risks, individuals can take proactive steps to protect themselves and find a way out of the abusive situation. A well-thought-out strategy can help in minimizing the possibility of retaliation from the abuser and can provide a sense of control and empowerment. It's important to plan for various scenarios and seek support from trusted individuals or organizations to increase the likelihood of a successful and safe escape. Developing a thoughtful and comprehensive escape strategy can be a vital step towards regaining autonomy and moving towards a life free from abuse.
Below are ways you can start strategizing and prepping your escape:
Stashing your cash
Stashing your cash could be one way you strategize your exit. You should expect your abusive partner to start searching for ways you are escaping, and blocking those escape plans, which is why you should be cautious. Be creative in where you hide your cash stash to reduce the chance that they may find it.
Places to stash your cash could be:
In empty tampon wrappers; click here to watch video on tiktok
In the container that you store your artificial Christmas tree
In a mock book
Rip the liner of objects and store in there. (shoes, suitcases, etc
Hide within the stuffing of decor pillows
Obtain copies of important documents
You may want to start collecting copies of important documents that you will need once you escape. Your abuser will make things as difficult as possible to either make you stay or make you unsuccessful when you escape and to come back and when you stash away your important documents you are helping future you stay gone from the abuse.
Important documents could be:
Your birth certificate as well as your childrens’
Social security cards
tax returns
bank statements, current and past
Your passport
health insurance cards and car insurance cards
Any titles of homes or property you own
You may also want to consider looking into the following as well:
Obtaining a “burner” phone so they cannot monitor you and track your calls
calling the national domestic violence hotline to obtain extra resources, categories of abuse, and venting: (800) 799-7233
Creating a new email address, do not autosave password, and document abuse with pictures, text messages, pictures of documents, and/ or recordings.
To listen to more information regarding prepping your escape and navigating post separation abuse, listen to my interview on Watch Us Thrive Podcast by clicking here
You can also schedule a 30 minute consultation to start the first steps in escaping, prepping to leave, and navigating post separation abuse by clicking here.